How to Seduce Your Lover with Compliments

In my life I've been lucky enough to be on the receiving end of many compliments. To most I've said "thank you," and then promptly forgotten them. Some I've held onto for a while because they've made me blush or laugh, but inevitably I've forgotten those too. However, I have received a certain few compliments that I'm sure I'll never forget. I'll use two from my college years as examples.

The first one was given to me by a homosexual guy (I'll explain why this is important later) at a party. We barely knew each other, and out of the blue he said, "You have perfect eyebrows." That's right, eyebrows! Interesting...

The second one was given to me by a middle-aged stranger. I was walking across campus, minding my own business, when he stopped me and said, "You know, you have excellent posture. I work for a magazine and see a lot of models, but you're stunning just naturally. I'm telling you this because it's not something anyone else would probably tell you, and I wanted you to know." Then, before I could really say anything in response, he walked away, and I've never seen him again.

So, what do these two compliments have in common that makes me remember them so vividly? Three Reasons.

Number One: They were given without an ulterior motive! Neither Homosexual Guy nor Middle-Aged Man were trying to hit on me. Clearly Homosexual Guy had no such agenda. And although I had my suspicions at first about Middle-Aged Man, he just left and never came back, so I took it as a real honest-to-goodness compliment. Because neither of these men wanted anything from me, and had no motivation to tell me these things other than because they just felt like it, I was taken completely off guard. Which brings me to my next reason.

Number Two: I was not expecting them! Even though you may not realize it, many of the compliments you give and receive are during times of expectation. It's the beginning of a date - "Wow you look great!" Or you've just stepped out of the shower - "Honey, you smell good enough to eat!" Yes, these compliments are nice, and probably sincere, but they're never going to leave a lasting impression simply because you could anticipate their arrivals.

Number Three: They were unique! People often equate uniqueness with a certain amount of creativity, but this is not always true. Giving a unique compliment to someone does not require an extra quick wit or sharp tongue by any stretch. All you have to do is find something about the person that you don't often see in others. In my Homosexual Guy example, he noticed my eyebrows. I was very happy with this because I kept them quite neat, and no one else had ever mentioned them. It was not a generic "You have nice eyes" (woo-hoo, like every female on the planet hasn't heard that one!) No, no...this was a part of my anatomy that was an attention virgin, and to this day my eyebrows are still loyal to Homosexual Guy because since that night, they haven't been complimented ever again.

Why am I telling you all this? Because I want you to seduce your lover with kindness. Making them feel warm and gushy inside with help you feel warm and gushy outside. Got it? So instead of verbally fumbling around with their mental zippers, undress them with practiced finesse by incorporating these three elements into your compliment arsenal; honesty, surprise, and uniqueness.

Honesty - give the compliment without wanting anything in return (or at least seem that way, don't be SO obvious)!
Surprise - give the compliment when they are least expecting it - not during foreplay!
Uniqueness - Pick an unusual body part or characteristic to focus on - But for the love of Sex, don't pick the eyes!!