Masturbating in Bed & Other Such Goodies

As masturbation month continues, I've been giving some thought to how couples view their own and their partner's masturbation. Although I've heard from many people, both men and women alike, that watching their parter masturbate turns them on and can be a great lead in to sex, I'm wondering how people feel about their partner's solo masturbation. That is, do people mind their significant other masturbating by themselves, for their own benefit, rather than the combined enjoyment of watching/being watched?

My assumption is that most people wouldn't care either way. So what if he/she masturbates in the shower, or when they are alone during the day? It's just a quick release. A moment of self-interested pleasure that may actually put them in a better mood during your together time later on.

But what happens when you wake up in the middle of the night to a shaking bed and heavy panting? Are you still just as accepting if your partner is selfishly masturbating with you right next to them?! Again, my guess is that a lot of people would draw the line at this one. Although probably OK with their S.O. doing this in private, they are probably not OK with this not-so-covert middle-of-the-night operation! After all, you are available. You are present. You are breathing for goodness sakes. The lease your partner could do is give you the benefit of the doubt and ask if you'd like to join in or have sex! Sheesh!

So I see your point. On the other hand I personally wouldn't care so much. After all, my husband knows how much I value my sleep, and waking me up for a quickie probably wouldn't go down so well...But that's just me. Then again, in the above scenario he did hypothetically wake me up anyway, but I'd be happy he at least didn't do it on purpose and was trying his best to be thoughtfully quiet.

The other issue that comes to mind is fantasizing during masturbation. Is it wrong to fantasize about someone other than your S.O.? Is it kinda like cheating? Is there a difference between making someone up in a fantasy and fantasizing about the porn girl/guy? All good questions...But I'll leave those to another post...

Feel free to leave your opinions in the comments section below!

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5 Reasons Why Masturbation is Good for Mothers

I have to start by thanking Kristofer for pointing out that May has been declared National Masturbation Month since 1995 by the wonderful people over at Good Vibrations. How this has slipped by me is anyone's guess, so I'm giving you, my dear reader, my not-so-sincerest apologies for having missed this monumental event in the past.

That being said, this weekend is also Mother's Day, and I think it would be fun to celebrate both events at once. Here goes.

Apparently Masturbation Month was declared as a way of raising awareness about masturbation and taking away the taboos that surrounded this incredibly common, though rarely discussed, practice. Twelve years later, I think masturbation has finally secured its place as an accepted and rather mundane part of almost everyone's life - except perhaps the very conservatively religious among us. Even Christians are finding ways to reconcile their beliefs with masturbation. Because of this, Masturbation Month seems to have transformed into a purely uninhibited celebration of auto-erotic activity. Now, now, calm yourself! I can see the crazy gleam of excitement dancing in your, er, eyes.

And because you guys are a particularly clever lot of blog readers, I'm sure you've already heard about the health benefits of masturbation so I won't bore you with that stuff here. I do, however, want to point out why masturbation is particularly good for wives and mothers, though I realize many mothers are not wives! So without further ado...

Reasons Why Mothers Should Masturbate:

1. Stress Reduction! Yes, masturbation really does relax you, and mothers are some of the most stressed-out people I know! A more relaxed Mom will make the whole family happier. How does that old saying go? "When Mom's not happy, nobody's happy!"
   
2. More Fun For Dad! It seems the more women masturbate, the more open they are to their partner's sexual advances. At first this seems odd. If she's taking care of her "needs" by herself, wouldn't she want less sex? Turns out the answer is no. Now whether that's because masturbating makes women hornier, or horny women masturbate more is for you to decide. Also, women like to have multiple orgasms...Maybe the first one she gives herself is like an appetizer, gearing her up for more action with her man.
   
3. It Promotes Sleep! Mothers are notorious for being in bad moods due to lack of sleep, especially new Moms who wake up frequently to nurse or give bottles during the night. Masturbating at bed time is a perfect way to help your body wind-down from a busy day.
4. Strengthens the Pelvic Floor! Do your Kegels, do your kegels! It's like a mother's mantra during and after pregnancy. Luckily, orgasms are another great way to tone up those inner muscles. This may be one of the only honestly fun kinds of exercise that exists.
5. Did I Already Say Stress Reduction?

Happy Masturbation-Mother's Day Month!!

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