So instead of the usual Sunday Erotica I've decided to treat you little lovelies to a bit of moving, writhing, moaning visual stimulation. I'll keep the post short and let the sensuous girl above work her magic...
Fur - If you're going to enjoy this movie, the first thing you have to do is to forget that it's trying to fictitiously depict the life of a very famous photographer named Diane Arbus. It has nothing to do with her. Once you've done that, you can see the movie for what it really is - a sexually provocative story that blurs the lines between macabre fascination, lust, compassion, and ultimately love.
Drawn to the enigmatic charisma of the mysterious man (Robert Downey Jr.) upstairs, Nicole Kidman's character falls deeper and deeper into a world of carnal sensuality with a man who never actually touches her. The movie is directed by Stephen Shainberg, the acclaimed director of Secretary (another beautifully complex sexual tale). Like Secretary, Fur is slow moving and offbeat, but filled with nuanced glances, stunning cinematography, and symbolic details that many viewers may miss the first time around. It's certainly not a movie for everyone. But for those who can identify with and follow the emotional journey of the characters, The movie will grip you from the beginning and leave you cathartically satisfied by the end.
Their first Meeting - He talks to her and asks her surprisingly sexual things about her past. It's clear that she's never shared these details with anyone, and she's both turned on and embarrassed by him. Does she like to expose herself? Does she like the way men look at her? Does she like to be scared? A wonderful mix of humiliation and honesty, the scene sets the stage for their relationship.
The Bathtub - He gives her permission to be herself with him. Her real self. She doesn't need clothes, but a blindfold always helps. She doesn't need to hide her lust or sensuality. Finally she's accepted by someone.
The Revealing - This is undoubtedly the climax of the movie, so I won't give too much away. It's his turn to be vulnerable, to open up himself to her. Suffice to say that it's painfully slow, incredibly intimate, and heartbreaking all at the same time. For those of us who enjoy delving into trust-and-razor play, this scene may just be one of the best ever in portraying the depth of emotionality that can go into it.
Beyond the Movie - The Carnality of Love
But why I really loved Fur was the way it showed the carnality of love. She wants to keep his body with her at all times. She wants his skin, his breath, his hair. She wants to bury herself in his scent, even when he's gone.
In today's modern society these very bodily aspects of lust/love seem to be misunderstood and/or vanishing. It's sexy and touching that in The Red Violin (another great movie!) a man is so distraught over his wife's passing that he uses her hair to make the strings of a violin, and her blood to make the dye. There's an animalistic, instinctual need to keep our loved one's with us - not in the metaphysical/spiritual sense - but in the flesh. And although it may seem illogical or crazy to carry a vial of someone's blood around your neck (nod to Angelina Jolie), on a deeper emotional level I think we all understand it. We don't need to explain it. It just makes sense without needing a rational...
But since our culture is all about rational, this type of unconscious understanding is unfortunately becoming unacceptable to express. Which, of course, ties directly in with sexuality since so much of our sexuality is still instinctual. It's a glaring reminder that we are still animals. We hunger, thirst, and lust just like the rest of them...
And I for one think connecting with this side myself is what true contentment feels like - Skin, blood, hair, and all!
As a member of the Cirque du Soleil fan club (they are my favorite performers on the planet!) I get updates emailed to me about new shows or website stuff, etc. One show in particular is called Zumanity - The Sensual Side of Cirque du Soleil and explores human eroticism and sexuality. Unfortunately this is not one of their traveling shows and is only performed in Las Vegas, so I haven't had the opportunity to see it, though trust me I will!
Anyways, I got this little gem in my email today. It's a stripping game to promote the show. You have to follow this yellow ball around a letter, such as Z or U which eventually spells ZUMANITY, while the woman on screen, an amazing hoop girl who is, of course, incredibly athletic and sexy, wiggles around and strips piece by piece. For every successful round she takes an item of clothing off. Yes, the game gets harder as it progresses...
If you have some time to kill this is not a bad way to do it, and it's much better quality than most online trinket games of its kind. (Please choose the option to SKIP the intro because it's one of the most dorky things I've ever seen) As of now I haven't made it past "U," but if you happen to beat the game, let us know...Does she actually get completely naked or is it just a trap?
Also their website has a section where you can preview the show itself. If you like fantasy/artsy/amazingly creative pieces that seem almost impossible, you'll enjoy it, I promise!
(I tried to find a better quality video, but couldn't. It's the same girls as in the game...)
Yes, I'm allowed to feed my own pathetic obsessions too! But for everyone else who enjoyed last weeks piece on Julien the Hottie, trust me, this performance is even better!
Be patient, he starts off "normal" and "calm" but...wait for it...wait for it...TINGLES! Yum.
Aahhhh to be my Sexy Man. What does it take...Good looks, charisma, and charm? Sensitivity, sweetness, and compassion?
Nope, no way, boring. To catch my attention you have to be risky, on the edge, and multi-faceted. I like a man who makes me go, "What?! What?!" and then, "What?!" He has to make me laugh with his quirkiness, excite me with his lack of conformity, and challenge my ideas of masculinity. He has to be thoughtful at times, borderline depressive at others, and then completely out of his mind when it's time to break free. I want him to take me on his emotional roller-coasters, drag me to my own limits and dangle me over the abyss - all the while knowing that no one else could be as symbiotically beautiful as we are together. Even if it is our dysfunctions that make us perfectly functional, he has to be dependable, honest, and totally committed. It's an unusual mixture, but these men do exist (I'm married to one). So when I see these traits in another man, I have to smile.
Julien, in the above clips, is such a man. He's unquestionably bizarre, oddly handsome, and really really sexy. I know a lot of women won't agree with me, and will think I'm insane...But then again a lot of women will understand. When he says, "You know that I would be a liar, if I were to say to you, Girl we couldn't get much higher...Come on Baby light my fire!" I believe him. It's like he can't control himself, begging you to take it to the next level. Come on Baby, kick it up a notch! Turn me on, get me excited. I dare you!
And the naughty side of me can't help but respond. OK, Mr. Cocky, let's see what you can really do...
So I'm dedicating this post to all those women who SEE his incredible sexiness, who get turned on by explicitly passionate men, and who would never back away from such a challenge!
Go ahead, admit it. You've gone to YouTube and searched for "adult," "sex," "XXX," or "porn." Don't lie! You know you have...
I'm sure you thought, "Surely somebody out there has uploaded themselves getting crazy on a Friday night!" But inevitably the disappointment sank in because even the videos marked for "content" are nothing more than PG-13 shots...The wonderful YouTube Cleanliness Committee has already searched for and destroyed any of the "really good videos."
But cheer up, 'cause I have quite a treat for you this lucky Sunday! I've found it, the hidden porn treasure trove. A YouTube-like site just for adults...and it's completely free.
No more 10 second clips, no more wasted time searching out adult content on non-adult sites...
Now you can go to GEXO and see all the happy bopping you want!
Apparently the site launched this January, so is still in the process of working out its "kinks" so to speak. As I mentioned, it is free now, but I'm not sure if a site this good will remain that way for long.
If you're feeling a little, um,erotically charged, go ahead and visit. I was so excited by this discovery I just had to share the Love with you, my most appreciated readers!
Judging by its continually increasing popularity, people not only find watching orgasmic faces interesting, but highly erotic. In fact man commentors claim that Beautiful Agony is the most sexually exciting thing they've ever seen, especially in comparison to other "traditional" porn sites.
So, while I have no doubt that watching someone else cum makes you want to do the same, can we really classify Beautiful Agony as pornography? After all, it's only showing faces! What's so "indecent" about a face making all sorts of "interesting" expressions, and "funny" noises?
1: the depiction of erotic behavior (as in pictures or writing) intended to cause sexual excitement 2: material (as books or a photograph) that depicts erotic behavior and is intended to cause sexual excitement
Hmmm, it does cause sexual excitement, and it does intend to do so. How do I know its intentions? Because the "About" section of Beautiful Agony specifically says - "This may be the most erotic thing you have ever seen, yet the only nudity it contains is from the neck up. That's where people are truly naked." So clearly the website knows that people are watching their material to become "sexually excited."
I suppose then that based on Merriam-Webster it is pornography. Wow. Just watching a face is pornographic. I never thought I'd hear that.
Still, I don't completely buy it. I can't bring myself to call it pornography. Of course it's extremely hot, but so are some billboards! Do they intend to cause sexual excitement? Yes! That's how they get people to purchase their products...But these types of ads aren't pornographic, just sexy. So for me, Beautiful Agony remains in that wickedly naughty area of amazingly-erotic but non-pornographic material.
After all, I can watch "regular" porn all day without even batting an eye, but Beautiful Agony makes *me* blush! Now that's saying something!
What do you think? Is it porn?! See for yourself. Then leave a comment and let me know!
Continuing with the theme of strange hetero-male obsessions, I'd like to talk a little about your fascination with lesbian porn. I've been thinking about this for a while now, and I still can't figure out the answer to...why?? What is the incredible appeal of watching two women go at it without even the hint of a male presence? After all, as fas as I know man-on-man porn is not such a big thing for hetero-women...So, what's with the lesbians?
Here's what I've come up with so far:
1. Women are beautiful and turn you on, therefore seeing two is even better than seeing one. OK, I can understand that.
2. Girl-on-Girl Porn doesn't make you at all jealous because there's no man involved for you to consciously or unconsciously compete with. I suppose watching another man have sex with a "hot" girl might not do it for you because the thought "Why is she doing him and not me?" might be distracting. Right.
3. Seeing his "bigger and better" penis makes you feel self-conscious. If this is your reason be sure to read this. It might help.
4. You think of yourself as so "ultra-heterosexual" that even the thought of another man having sex turns you off - let alone watching it! Yeah, this reasons makes me laugh since watching lesbians is watching homosexuals. Grant it it's not male homosexuals, but still! Plus, wouldn't you rather watch a girl who you could potentially have a chance with by the simple virtue of having a penis than a girl who likes vaginas? (I know, many of the so-called porn lesbians aren't necessarily lesbians off camera, but it's the idea!)
5. I have no fifth reason! I told you this topic stumps me!
None of the previous four reasons seem good enough to explain the prevalence of the lesbian porn mystique. Sure they may be part of the answer, but I'm missing something vitally intrinsic to the overall appeal.
So Guys, I need your help! Leave a comment or write to me at SpeakSexy@aol.com and tell me why YOU enjoy watching two girls kiss, suck, and lick each other. I honestly want to know!
I'm planning to write a follow-up article to this one with all of your fantastic reasons (not your names of course), so please write to me!
P.S. - I hope you enjoyed the videos...Happy Sunday!
Every day I have the pleasure of scouring the internet for new sex things...be it interesting porn, sex health discoveries, or sexual policies. I see so much sexually related material that it all starts to jumble together and look the same. But every once in a while I find something that makes me smile...
Yep, the iBuzz. Human ingenuity at its finest! I wonder who thought of turning the ultra-sleek Apple iPod into a discreet, music adjustable, sex toy! I also wonder how the Apple corp. feels about this naughty accessory. I'm sure they disapprove since it's not made by Apple, and has the possibility of tarnishing their carefully constructed image.
Maybe that's one of the reasons I haven't heard of it before. Apparently there was an iBuzz One that slipped by me, and I'm catching on to the trend at iBuzz Two. Not that we usually see sex toy commercials on TV, but wouldn't this clip be great to stealthily insert during prime time on a boring Wednesday night? After all, there's no objectionable content - no nudity, no violence - just two small innocent buzzing things instead of headphones. And the bunny is so cute! Really, it has family appeal.
But all jokes aside, the toy itself is a great idea. While the iBuzz One was, well, made for when you're going solo...the iBuzz Two allows for mutual gratification. It's a couple's toy, and apparently comes with the Girl Clit Bunny and Boy Cock Ring. I suppose if your partner of choice is the same gender you might have to fight this one out...And there's still the question of who gets to pick the music...
Bah, Details!
So, if you'd like more information on how to get your hot, wet, slippery hands on one you can visithere. Don't worry, there's also a link there to the buy it in the US. Go ahead, do a search. I promise they're hard to find! Who loves you? :)
Before getting into the details of why I think this is one of the hottest kissing scenes ever made, I'll give you a very brief contextual recap. For those of you who haven't already seen "The Illusionist" (I highly recommend it), the characters in this scene were childhood sweethearts who were forced to separate. They accidentally find each other many years later. At this point she is engaged to be married to a prince (I think) and he is a highly respected touring magician. The sexual tension between them builds during brief, secretive meetings...until neither of them can hide their passion for the other. She goes to his house in the middle of the night to finally be honest, and to find out exactly where they stand...Now watch the clip (feel free to stop it after the sex is over!)
So, let's go play-by-play through these absolutely delicious couple of minutes. First, they are angry and frustrated with each other. Always a good start for passionate sex. As she begins her tirade, he pauses, waits...then at just the right moment, without one answering word, he walks up to her and kisses her...But it's the way he walks...so determined, so intent. His hand comes up to hold her neck, his thumb brushes her cheek tenderly, calming her...
To all men reading this, if you ever want to shut a woman up during a *stupid* fight, this is the most constructive way to do it. (This will only work during inconsequential "she's PMSing" kind of fights, not the real "you cheated on me, you Bastard" kind of fights!) That's my professional advice. Ha.
Moving right along. He leads her inside his house, all the while watching her, turning her around to place her just where he wants her. She tries to regain some measure of control, tries to initiate a kiss...but he stops her! Again he takes her face in his hand, but not tenderly this time. Now that she's agreed to enter his house, his territory, she'll play by his rules. His hold is somewhat threatening as he uses controlled force to push her against the wall. The tension in his body, the hunger in his eyes, his every movement reinforces his desire for her. It's obvious he's waited too long for this, imagined it, dreamed about it...and now that it's here he's not about to let her ruin his hard-earned conquest.
But instead of fully attacking...he lingers, draws out and savors the moment. There's a big difference between lingering and hesitating. He's not hesitant. He's not trying to decide if he should or shouldn't. That decision has long passed. Instead he wants to revel in every single second of her surrender...And still he refuses to give her the satisfaction of a kiss.
He begins to undress her, and she takes his lead. When he opens her shirt, he finds she's wearing the necklace he made for her when they were young. It's a confirmation of his ownership. After all this time, even while engaged to another man, she still displays her secret symbolic loyalty to him. Like a traditional wedding ring, or a non-traditional collar, the necklace speaks to him of her devotion...As she realizes what's briefly caught his attention...As they simultaneously understand that what's between them is real, lasting through time, stronger than separation...the intensity rises to a new level...
Finally he loses his own carefully constructed composure. Even in his most fulfilling fantasy, she was never wearing the necklace...its meaning, its surprise...it overwhelms them both, and he no longer has the will to prolong the moment...He has to kiss her, he needs to kiss her, and so he does..fully and greedily.
In a way, her complete fidelity to him causes his emotional surrender to her...And for the rest of the scene they make love as perfectly matched equals...without secrets, without fear, and with utter abandon.
Add to all this the sweeping score by Philip Glass and the beautiful cinematography, and what you get is a two minute example of perfectly crafted sexual passion. I thoroughly enjoyed it...
Just imagine you're a man (or maybe you really are a man, just go with it, OK?) and it's late on a Friday night...You turn down the lights, take off your clothes, and slip between the silky smooth sheets of your bed...In front of you, right there in your bedroom, is a gleaming silver pole...And you wait.
After a few seconds the music starts...It's deep, hypnotic, and you begin to forget about your stressful week...Then, in your bathroom doorway, a woman appears...It's your wife...but there's something different about her tonight, something you can't put your finger on...
She ignores you as your eyes follow her swaying hips to the pole...She begins to move, her body twisting, back arching...slowly at first...Her eyes are closed, and you feel like you're intruding on a private world all her own...It's both voyeuristic and intimate at the same time...
You're mesmerized as her movements become more open, dynamic, revealing...She presses her belly and thighs against the pole as though it were a lover, tangled and intertwined...Her jumps are gracefully executed, her breasts are displayed for you...just you...
And as the music starts to subside, she wraps her leg high around the metal and spins to the floor, shifts to her final position...She's kneeling, lit by the glow of her own sensuality...
Finally, she raises her eyes to yours, intensely, hungrily...She is transformed. And for perhaps the very first time, you see the real woman, the powerful, secretive, seductive woman, who allows herself to be called your wife.
Not too shabby for a "quiet" night with the Mrs. is it?
Now, I'm not a very trendy person, but this is something I could really get into! I'm very excited to hear that one of the hottest trends in home fitness and entertainment is Pole Dancing! Not only do I think watching a woman spin and twirl herself around a larger-than-life phallic symbol is incredibly sexy, but the physical/health benefits for the dancers are undeniable.
Unfortunately, the fact that it's almost exclusively performed in adult-related places by women who are either naked, or close to naked, for the sole purpose of exciting men, seems to detract from the true talent and artistry that's necessary to do these fantastic moves. Maybe this new pole-dance-at-home trend will help to give these dancers the respect and admiration they deserve.
So, let's take a moment to explore the delicious ramifications of unleashing your (or your lover's) innate sensuality...with the help of Mr. Pole. As a woman I can honestly tell you that one of the most powerful sources of self esteem and self worth I have is through my sexuality. I love knowing that if I move my lusciously feminine curves in just the right way, or bend over at just the right angle, I have the ability to captivate a man's attention, draw him to me, and leave him wanting more.
It's like a secret weapon, a wonderfully deceptive trick that's always at my disposal, at all women's disposal, even if they don't realize it. Pole dancing, like stripping, exploits this wonderful fact, and learning some moves, even simple ones, can undoubtedly have a huge effect on a woman's confidence and sex life.
The very idea of giving my lover such an erotic and naughty show does make me nervous, but also exquisitely excited. Both viewer and performer become aroused, and unlike club performers, these private dancers can be touched...and fondled...and fu...Well, you get the idea.
So, if this is something you're serious about getting into, there are apparently all types of pole options - fixed, semi-fixed, portable. You can take classes, or learn via DVD. And if you really get into it you can even start your own business and go house to house teaching other women how to do it!
Pole Dancing at home! Ha, what a fantastic idea!
PS- I just learned how to put vids on here...So now I can put even more sexy stuff in my posts! (I'm excited, are you?!)
Does alcohol make sex better? I think its effects are particularly interesting. As you know, alcohol is a depressant, which literally means it slows down the functions of our bodies, such as our hearts, thus slowing down the entire circulatory system. Blood circulation, however, plays a major role in both the ability to become physically (sexually) aroused as well as influencing the way we interpret tactile sensations (Was that bite nice and soft? Just hard enough? Or what the hell were you thinking get off of me?!). Based on this one would assume that drinking four beers in quick succession would lead to a much slower sexual response time and a decrease in the pleasurable experience of sex. However, this ingenious substance also has the intriguing ability to inhibit our mental inhibitions. Although physically it may slow us down, mentally it opens us up, allowing a momentary respite from that ultra-critical, politically-correct voices which tells us what we can and can't do, what is and is not socially acceptable. So while those four beers may make us more lethargic, it also makes us more mentally excitable. But which effect prevails in the end? Well, if we use the amount of one-night stands as a gauge, I'd bet they more often happen while under the influence of Mr. Bubbles than not. Granted, not everyone who drinks becomes more sexually provocative. There are sad drunks, angry drunks, happy drunks, horny drunks, etc. Which makes me wonder, does drinking really bring out who we really are underneath that thin social facade created by our inhibitions? I know I become a lot more *affectionate* when I've put a couple glasses of wine behind me, and when sex does happen, I experience the act much more intensely than when I'm completely sober. I love being in that drug-induced haze where each touch and kiss feels uniquely distinct yet at the same time blend strangely together to create a perfect sexual symphony.I feel as though I can give more of myself, take more from my lover, and create something that is larger than both of us. Nothing comes close to that when I'm sober. Perhaps this is my own flaw...maybe I am too stressed, or too distracted. Wondering if I unloaded the dishwasher while in the middle of taking off someone's pants surely will not lead to that perfect sexual symphony! But, if I experience this, then there are undoubtedly others who will relate. Maybe alcohol forces me to focus by the very fact that it does slow me down. Maybe its effects are more profound on women since women are often cited as being distracted during sex. Maybe some people feel that drinking takes away from the intensity of sober sex. I can only speak for myself on this one, and my answer is unflinchingly YES, alcohol does make sex better, regardless of the reasons.
I thought I'd start us off with a topic that seems to get all sorts of mixed reactions; Pornography Use in Relationships. Leaving aside the more generic arguments against porn such as the degradation of women and such, some people claim that pornography is the very thing destroying their marriages, while others feel that it is just another useful tool in their creative toy box. Both sides of the argument are rather well known. Basic Against It:
Its use fosters feelings of guilt in the user and mistrust, anger, and inadequacy in the partner.
It gives men in particular unreasonable expectations of women's bodies and behaviors.
It is cheating!
Basic For It:
In circumstances when partners can not be together, it is an alternative to having sex with someone else (long distance relationships, during times when one partner is unable or unwilling to have sex such as after the birth of a child, etc.)
It adds spice to a long-term couple's hum-drum sexuality. It can generate new ideas or act as part of the foreplay when viewed together.
It is not cheating!
Personally I enjoy pornography of all kinds, even being the feminist that I am! I think porn is a nice way of "breaking the ice" sometimes...Nothing says "I want to have sex now Honey!" as the cacophony of moans and slapping sounds that gently waft from the computer during those free 10 second movie clips! However, in all honesty I must say that when I am not involved in my husband's porn excursions I do feel somewhat left out, and have even gone as far as feeling anger on occasion. But why?! Intellectually I have nothing against it...but emotionally there is a part of me that feels my husband's sexuality belongs to me, and mine to him. So during his singular porn sessions, when he is viewing, thinking about, and getting excited by other women with me no where in his direct sensual world, it feels unpleasantly strange...like he is being sexual without me when I should be there in some way! On the flip side, I feel guilty watching porn without him. So, do I think viewing porn is cheating? No...but I understand that to some degree it does feel like it, especially during those times when both of us are not involved.
Hi Rose. I read some of your blog which I never really do. However, I found it very interesting, educational, and stimulating. Wow! I am gonna keep reading. Thank you.
-- jd--
Rose: What a well thought out and well articulated blog.
--?--
I read your profile and part of your blog and wanted to say it's wonderful to find someone who has a mature attitude about sex and sexuality. Most people online seem to want to joke about it, talk in circles about it and just don't have a clue about either their own sexuality or anyone else's. I hope you can educate some people and help them find their way.
--Mario--
This is great stuff you have Rose; well done, thought out, etc,. I wish you great success!
If you're going to enjoy this movie, the first thing you have to do is to forget that it's trying to fictitiously depict the life of a very famous photographer named Diane Arbus. It has nothing to do with her. Once you've done that, you can see the movie for what it really is - a sexually provocative story that blurs the lines between macabre fascination, lust, compassion, and ultimately love.
if you like it.
" (I highly recommend it), the characters in this scene were childhood sweethearts who were forced to separate. They accidentally find each other many years later. At this point she is engaged to be married to a prince (I think) and he is a highly respected touring magician. The sexual tension between them builds during brief, secretive meetings...until neither of them can hide their passion for the other. She goes to his house in the middle of the night to finally be honest, and to find out exactly where they stand...Now watch the clip (feel free to stop it after the sex is over!)
I thought I'd start us off with a topic that seems to get all sorts of mixed reactions; Pornography Use in Relationships. Leaving aside the more generic arguments against porn such as the degradation of women and such, some people claim that pornography is the very thing destroying their marriages, while others feel that it is just another useful tool in their creative toy box. Both sides of the argument are rather well known.
